It was about three years ago that I first discovered that chat rooms could be miraculous places. It started in a group very similar to ours. They were there for me when I'd been scammed, but they didn't use their chat room. One member of the email group mentioned that she was feeling really let down -- that she'd expected to be in this new relationship for the Christmas / New Year holidays, and now she'd be all alone. Her pain was shared by many. We decided to meet in the chat room to keep each other company.
I don't remember which one of us suggested it. I do know that it began with one single suggestion. We are a group of women and men who had one thing in common -- we had all been scammed in one way or another. We met that Christmas, and shared our stories. Before long, we were laughing together. Sometimes our conversation was light hearted and superficial. Other times, it was intense and personal, especially as new members found their way to the chat room and needed to share their pain and disbelief.
Our trust in others had been damaged by faceless strangers who only pretended to love us for financial gain. But over time, we began to trust again, slowly and surely. As we shared our pain, our stories, we found that we were not scorned or judged. We found others who had experienced similar situations, and could tell us how they handled their feelings and emotions, how they learned to move forward. We encouraged each other when times were bad, and celebrated when times were good. Most of us had families -- but this new family shared a bond that was and remains special.
The holidays can be acutely lonely times. It can seem that everyone else in the world has a loving family and/or children, and that we're shut out in the cold. Its also a key time for scammers to ramp up their game and promise to come home for the holidays -- and for some of us to be left waiting at the airport for a ghost as that horrible sinking feeling sets in.
Scams of the Heart will "leave the light on for ya" and greet you with caring and compassionate members who will soon become friends. You don't have to be alone any more. Come on and join us -- what have you got to lose besides that horrid loneliness? www.scamsoftheheart.org //mw