The aftermath of a scam is devestating, but it can be an enlightening experience as well that can lead to something good. I know that when you first go through this awful experience that it can be daunting and also make you feel like it's the end of the world.
I'm here to tell you it is not the end of the world. As you take each day one at a time and you finally stop crying and get back out in the world, you find that you notice things more. The blueness of the sky, the beauty of flowers, the wonder of a child's laughter. You start to realize that you are, day by day, gaining more confidence and a better appreciation of your own self worth. It's like you have come through a bad nightmare and are finally seeing the sun.
When I look back, I see that dark place I was in compared to where I am now. I realized that what happened to me was not my fault. I have come to understand that I am a good, worthwhile person....,that I have a lot to offer the world......that life is good! I feel strong and vital and am once again that happy, vibrant person that I was back before my scam.
Granted it took me time, and a few meltdowns, but I made it! You will too! Believe in yourself and in the innate strength we all have. I have found that friendships mean more to me, my family means more to me, even though of course they always have had top priority with me. I have also made new, wonderful friendships that have lifted my spirit and made me smile. I have met so many great people online that helped me on my journey with their compassion and understanding.
I guess what I am trying to say here is that even though you don't think you will ever recover, you will! We are all basically survivors and the human spirit is not easy to extinguish. Even in my darkest hours that spark was there. That spark is there in you also and it will flame again! You will find happiness and that special someone! I know I have! Life is good!